Wish I was in NYC to see this show. Jamie's description of the anonymous sex I remember from some 40 to 60 years ago is so on target. His sense of humor which carries the monologue is fun. This was a great read and a needed trip down memory lane. Fondly, Michael
Lucky you - you went to rambles and came out with the love of your life - I was the ignored, crushed guy. Whether it’s hook ups in the bushes then or left-swiping now, gay men will always be mean.
I've always envied gay men for being able to have sex so easily. I'm curious, though: How much alcohol do you typically drink before cruising? I can't imagine _wanting_ to have anonymous sex unless I'd had 3+ drinks. I prefer to get to know someone first -- like after 2-5 dates -- before sleeping together. Just trying to understand, not judging.
I started anonymous cruising before I started drinking, so never needed booze to cruise. However, I was often under the influence. Once I got sober, I discovered I still didn’t need booze to cruise.
I think you’re typical—many women are wired that way. In Fear of Flying Eric Jong famously wrote about a woman craving anonymous sex, which she called “the zipless fuck”. Delighted that you live my piece.
Wish I was in NYC to see this show. Jamie's description of the anonymous sex I remember from some 40 to 60 years ago is so on target. His sense of humor which carries the monologue is fun. This was a great read and a needed trip down memory lane. Fondly, Michael
The Ramble, the piers, even the streets... miss it all! Wonderful essay, thank you!
I miss the thrill of adventure those haunts provided. Thank you.
Jamie, this brought back memories--and I love the turn at the end!
I miss the Ramble!
I loved this essay and the unexpected twist!
Lucky you - you went to rambles and came out with the love of your life - I was the ignored, crushed guy. Whether it’s hook ups in the bushes then or left-swiping now, gay men will always be mean.
I definitely experienced the mean ones. That’s what I meant by Darwinian cruelty of those situations. I was rejected many times.
Still waiting for my Prince in the Bushes…
I've always envied gay men for being able to have sex so easily. I'm curious, though: How much alcohol do you typically drink before cruising? I can't imagine _wanting_ to have anonymous sex unless I'd had 3+ drinks. I prefer to get to know someone first -- like after 2-5 dates -- before sleeping together. Just trying to understand, not judging.
I started anonymous cruising before I started drinking, so never needed booze to cruise. However, I was often under the influence. Once I got sober, I discovered I still didn’t need booze to cruise.
Wow! Thanks for explaining that. And I loved your piece, by the way. “Named sex.” 🤣
It makes me wonder if there are women who enjoy sober anonymous sex or if I’m typical in wanting to get to know someone first.
I think you’re typical—many women are wired that way. In Fear of Flying Eric Jong famously wrote about a woman craving anonymous sex, which she called “the zipless fuck”. Delighted that you live my piece.