"I generally don’t feel queer enough. I’ve had relationships with men and women my whole life. And I married a trans man. But my family didn’t know about his identity until after he died."
Kara, Beautiful piece! We have shared many similar experiences as our spouse died. I especially love that after you married you crawled into bed with him and supported him to the end. Fondly, Michael
There’s a kind of tenderness that grows where grief and desire share the same bed. The way you write about love after loss feels like breathing underwater, almost impossible, yet you do it.
It’s rare to read someone who treats grief as continuation, not absence.
Thank you for sharing your beautiful story. Normally, when I comment, I like to pull out a quote. However, there are too many in your piece, and since you wrote them, I won't repeat them. What I took away from your story is that love is love, it comes in many different forms, but it also requires constant effort, if you genuinely love. It's poetic how you're conjuring your husband's memory for the book through the transcripts. His spirit will accompany you forever.
This (the interview and the photos) was deeply moving. Thank you so much and best wishes on the book collab with Nicholas, Kara. 🩵🩷🤍🩷🩵
Kara! I love learning more about your life here.
And I’m not sure if I’ve said it before, but that photo of you at the top is so gorgeous so far full of light in life!
Thank you for this, Jerry and Kara.
Thank you so much, Holly! I'm a fan. I hope to be in Caravan mote regularly.
Yay! It always lights me up to see you there on a Zoom. ;0)
Kara, Beautiful piece! We have shared many similar experiences as our spouse died. I especially love that after you married you crawled into bed with him and supported him to the end. Fondly, Michael
Thank you for reading. Life just breaks our hearts.
There’s a kind of tenderness that grows where grief and desire share the same bed. The way you write about love after loss feels like breathing underwater, almost impossible, yet you do it.
It’s rare to read someone who treats grief as continuation, not absence.
Beautiful, and quietly brave. ✨
Oh wow. Thank you so much. You get it completely. ❤️
I am so happy to be in this good company. Thank you, @Jerry Portwood !
Thank you for sharing your beautiful story. Normally, when I comment, I like to pull out a quote. However, there are too many in your piece, and since you wrote them, I won't repeat them. What I took away from your story is that love is love, it comes in many different forms, but it also requires constant effort, if you genuinely love. It's poetic how you're conjuring your husband's memory for the book through the transcripts. His spirit will accompany you forever.
Thank you so much for this!
You’re most welcome and thank you too❣️
What a wonderful interview! Thanks for sharing yourself with us!
Thanks for reading!
Love this. You've had a fascinating life, Kara. And thanks, Jerry, for bringing us her story.
Thank you for reading!
Thank you!