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D. C. Wilkinson's avatar

I related to this piece on so many levels. I never believed in the institution of marriage, until I came to understand --later in life-- that a formal commitment could seal a loving relationship. Another thing, my first long time companion died of alcoholism. And it was indeed very significant to me that I could talk about it with my family and friends.

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Anthony DiPietro's avatar

Thanks for taking the time to share that. I’m glad you saw aspects of your own life reflected in the essay. 🙏

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Brenden O'Donnell's avatar

Beautiful! I really related to your description of a relationship decaying privately, from the inside, and the isolation that causes. I’m glad you found your way out (of course not without heartbreak). Thank you for sharing your story 💜

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Anthony DiPietro's avatar

Thank you Brenden! I’m glad it speaks to you. I’ve seen myself reflected in your essays too. Let’s both keep doing this! ❤️

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Von C.'s avatar

I'm so proud to have this author as my brother in law. Queer agency allows us to define love, marriage, intimacy, relationship success and failure on our own terms outside the broader culture. The way grief and hope are bound together in this piece rings true. xv

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Anthony DiPietro's avatar

What a beautiful read! Thank you and proud to call you family too!

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Elle Waters's avatar

Beautiful essay. Thank you for sharing.

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Meg Macy's avatar

Great insights. Thank you!

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Andrea Stoeckel's avatar

My. Soon to be ex wife and I were part of the Vermont Civil Union wave post 9/11 in part because neither of us trusted our family of chance ( aka biological family) to respect us legally.

We lasted 25 years- longer than either sets of parents.

Would I do it again? That's a question for the ages

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Anthony DiPietro's avatar

Yes, These are big questions! And how do we honor something that lasted that long, while realizing that all relationships evolve to new forms? Anyway, I’m glad parts of my story resonated for you. 😀

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