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Rachel Parsons's avatar

Wow, I love this, thank you so much for writing it. The craft is stunning and the language and loss of language on naming sexuality and desire is deeply familiar.

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Asya Graf's avatar

Thank you Rachel! And I just found your essay on questioning your queerness while loving a straight man and started reading it! Clearly we have some notes to compare here:)

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Rachel Parsons's avatar

yes!!

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Kabo Viri NY's avatar

I’m curious about the author's wife's adaptation mechanisms: what kind of shielding does she utilize to protect herself from the desert of jealousy, envy, insecurity, hurt, and anger?

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Jerry Portwood's avatar

great question. and she may be writing a piece from her perspective soon so stay tuned!

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Jerry Portwood's avatar

I'm noticing a serious "daddy" trend in so many essays we've been receiving and publishing. But I didn't expect it from a woman living and loving another woman. So much to unpack here!

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Kate Walter's avatar

I wanted much more unpacking but maybe that will appear in the memoir.

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Ty (He/Him)'s avatar

This is the first piece I have ever read that’s come close to how I feel about exploring my queerness while being married to my wife. I really agree with the concept that we queer folk are maybe better at recognizing, and working through, the dissonances within our identities.

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