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The QLP Questionnaire: Brian Watson
"My husband already knows (and has known) about my femme qualities, and I have never needed to butch things up for him. As I explore an enby identity…
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Jerry Portwood
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Brian Watson
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He Didn't Change My Identity, He Expanded It
As a man raised in a Muslim culture, bisexuality challenged what I believed about attraction and desire. Then I met someone who changed everything.
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Adam T
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Hugh Nini and Neal Treadwell share more of their photographs of men in love
Hugh Nini and Neal Treadwell collect vintage vernacular photographs and now have a new book, 'Loving II: More photographic history of men in love…
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Jerry Portwood
38:25
My Saudade: He Was the Presence of Absence Made Flesh
Had the rest been illusions, an adolescent crush, a shimmering mirage from sun and distance?
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Court Stroud
15

August 2025

Jerry Portwood & Les Fabian Brathwaite Kiki About Pop Culture and More!
After reading Lester Fabian Brathwaite’s recent post about the gay cheerleader Les in the Bring It On movie—which debuted 25 years ago this month—I knew…
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Jerry Portwood
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Lester Fabian Brathwaite
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35:11
The Ring I Bought Myself Told Me Everything I Needed to Know
Was it about race, the toxicity of gay male dating culture, or something more?
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Lawrence Everett Forbes
25
The QLP Questionnaire: Caleb Reed
"I was 44 years old and had just come out...I felt like a 14-year-old boy holding someone’s hand of the same-gender for the first time, kissing a guy…
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Caleb Reed
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Jerry Portwood
Fall of Eighth Grade
Was it a crush? I recognized in her something I hadn’t articulated about myself. And through our friendship, I caught a glimpse of the future, the sort…
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Holly Mitchell
3
Give Me the Meat! Or How to Further Embrace the Happy Ending
What I've learned about queer love (and queer love writing) after editing a year of QLP essays.
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Michael Narkunski
4
The QLP Questionnaire: Xorje Olivares
"I learned the most about myself—and about communicating with a partner—by dating someone I was diametrically incongruent with and knew I wasn't going…
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Xorje Olivares
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Jerry Portwood
2
A Tale of Two Trans Princes
How to demand—and celebrate—the love we deserve.
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Your Trans Cousin
10
Why Can’t I Quit the Dating Apps?
It’s impossible to be a 22-year-old without “talking” to a handful of people at once. But I just want these techno tools to bring me a lasting…
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Ainsley McCullen
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